*Care or Control ??*
I was in a a consultation with a middle age couple.They started fighting right in front of me.
The upset husband said- See doc....I 'care' so much for her & this is what I get in return..
To which the fuming wife replied- He doesn't care...he just 'controls'...!
The *care* from one person was perceived as *control* by another !
Made me think...what is care and what is control??
How to identify them??
Soon I received the answer.
I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue...
Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears...😪
After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other...
My daughter hugged me
and said-Papa ,you know why you got upset?
You were not upset because I did wrong..but u were upset because I didnt follow your instructions....there is a big difference..!
I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern. ..
I received my answer too...
I was trying to control her under the disguise of care...that caused the conflict ....
If I really 'care' from someone , I will not get upset or angry with that person...
I will keep searching different ways to help him..
If I am struggling in any relationship...
I need to closely observe if there is any subtle control hidden behind my apparent care...because
Care is an expression of love while control is an expression of ego...~~(@
Control cuts...Care connects ...
Control hurts...Care heals...
_Keep caring for people but dont control them ... because_
_Often people are not wrong...they are just 'different'..._
_*Keep caring... 😊*_